Sep
27
2011
My Favorite Person Turns 40

Forty years ago today, my late mother-in-law gave birth to my favorite of her five boys. Thank God they didn’t stop at four.

Nineteen years ago, I met and fell in love with Dave.

Five years ago, I attended a week-long seminar for work, led by one of the most respected experts in my field. I sat next to said expert at dinner one night. At one point, as casually as “what looks good to you on the menu,” the respected expert turned to me and asked,

“So what made you fall in love with your husband?”

If you don’t have a stock answer to this question, I suggest coming up with one just in case. I think Dave was as close to love at first sight as it gets, but I didn’t have a list of reasons why I fell in love with him. I just did. The question still hung in the air and my brain was stubbornly blank except for one thing, a thing that forced me to stifle a giggle.

I can’t even remember what I ended up saying, but I’m sure it was nonsense and disappointing. Part of me wishes I had just blurted out “because he’s good in bed,” even though that would have been 900 kinds of inappropriate in this context.

There was never any doubt I loved Dave. I chose Dave the first time I met him. I keep my feelings closely guarded for a little while to protect myself in case he didn’t feel the same. Luckily for me, he did feel the same and had no problem telling me so. I’m so grateful he chose me too.

I was attracted to Dave from the moment I saw him. The first time I remember seeing him, he was standing close by at a party in his suite so that others, including me, could sit and be comfortable. At 6’4″, I had to look a long way up to see him and the view was impressive. He made me feel all fluttery with excitement.

I could say he’s handsome or adorable or hot and all of those things are true. But I think the most accurate way to describe him is beautiful. His eyes are flecked with gold and looking into them calms me. He is this giant of a man who couldn’t be more gentle. I bought him a tee-shirt a few years ago that says “I’m a giver.” And it’s true. He thinks of others before himself.

When I met him, he often wore a hat that simply said “Happy.” I started calling him Happy and the name fit. Dave was an easy-going, generally happy guy. He was the perfect foil for me, since if I were wound up any tighter I might break a spring.

He makes wherever I am feel like home. Early in our relationship he told me he shows love for people through food. But he didn’t have to tell me that since it was a Saturday morning and he had come over to my room with croissants and hot chocolate. We snuggled in my bed and watched cartoons. Just typing that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside even though it’s been almost 20 years since that day.

I like to tease Dave about how he doesn’t do grand gestures, but being Queen of the grand gesture (like borrowing this idea to get Dave 40 gifts for his 40th birthday) I realize how much easier it is to do the occasional grand gesture than what Dave does for me day in and day out. He is the King of everyday thoughtful gestures. He does all of the cooking and he is excellent at it. He carries heavy things, reaches things that are too high, and drops me off when it’s really cold or raining.

He believes in me and supports me in everything I do. He gets up ungodly early to go to my races and be there for me at the finish line. When I ran my first race a couple of years ago, it was chilly and drizzled the whole time. He drove me there, stayed the whole time, waited for me at the finish line, and had homemade hot chocolate in a thermos waiting for me when I was done.

Dave also knows everything, which comes in handy. He read his family’s encyclopedia set growing up because he felt like it. His Dad and four brothers get into debates at the dinner table when they get together and they are all very stubborn, except for Dave actually. But they often defer to Dave’s knowledge, which makes me proud. He’s sort of become my encyclopedia and it’s actually disconcerting when he says “I don’t know” in response to something I’ve asked him.

But he’s modest. He generally only talks if he feels he has something important to say. That he talked to me rather freely from the very beginning was an early sign that he liked me too. My mother-in-law once told me Dave didn’t say a word until he was four and when he spoke, his first words were a complete sentence. I always thought that was so adorable and so Dave.

Dave is the only person who has ever made me feel as comfortable to spend time with as I am by myself. And yes, he’s good in bed. Maybe I should have just said that.

Here is a video I made to honor the first 40 years of Dave. I’m in love with the picture of him at 1:05. If I’d known him then, I totally would have hit that. I had all of Dave’s family photos digitized and it was hard to cull them. So a longer video, for the truly Dave-obsessed (i.e., me) can be found here.

Happy Birthday, Dave! I love you.

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24 Responses to “My Favorite Person Turns 40”

  1. Erin
    Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 1:48 am #

    This is such a sweet love letter. I am a bit verklempt.

    • logyexpress
      Tuesday, October 4, 2011 at 7:04 pm #

      Thanks, Erin! We both teared up watching the video together. I was surprised it affected me like that, since I’d watched it several times by myself before posting it.

  2. prufrockonhiatus
    Wednesday, September 28, 2011 at 4:31 am #

    Sounds like a keeper :)

    • logyexpress
      Tuesday, October 4, 2011 at 7:05 pm #

      Thanks, he is indeed a keeper! I was happy to do something special for him.

  3. JT
    Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 7:08 pm #

    What an awesome tribute and declaration, I love to hear these kinds of love stories. Ya I guess i am a romantic sap at heart :-)

    BTW did you get my e-mail? Just wondering if I may have been sent to your spam folder since i don’t normally write you there.

    • logyexpress
      Tuesday, October 4, 2011 at 7:09 pm #

      Thanks, JT! I’m definitely a sap.

      I did get your email, thanks! I’m currently on vacation (bad Tracy for being online during vacation!) and my last couple of weeks at work were crazy since I was going to be out. All that to say I’m behind on blog email, comments, etc… I was definitely intrigued by your idea. Can we touch base after I get back from vacation?

  4. nikkianne
    Thursday, September 29, 2011 at 8:25 pm #

    Beautiful post. :) Glad you’re so happy

    • logyexpress
      Tuesday, October 4, 2011 at 7:11 pm #

      Thanks! I just saw you’re reading and blogging about Geneen Roth’s book. I’m intrigued by it and look forward to hearing more about your thoughts.

  5. DM
    Sunday, October 2, 2011 at 2:17 am #

    he really does sound like a keeper!! He’s got a great formula there. Happy Birthday, Dave!

  6. Kelly
    Saturday, February 11, 2012 at 12:00 pm #

    What a wonderful tribute! I loved this line: “Just typing that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside even though it’s been almost 20 years since that day.”

    • logyexpress
      Friday, February 17, 2012 at 12:29 am #

      Thanks, Kelly! I love how Dave shows love through food (because I love food!).

  7. May
    Saturday, February 11, 2012 at 4:29 pm #

    What a tribute. I love the photo of the two of you in dress clothes sitting on a bench outdoors.

    And this line…I chose Dave the first time I met him…made me catch my breath.

    Everyone should be so lucky!

    • logyexpress
      Friday, February 17, 2012 at 12:31 am #

      Thanks, May! I think the bench photo is our wedding?!? I’d have to watch the video again.

      Dave and I have actually argued about who chose whom first. We can be a little annoying!

  8. Katie
    Saturday, February 11, 2012 at 6:06 pm #

    I loved this. The video. The words. It all made me smile. I have a favorite person, too, and he sounds an awful lot like yours. We’re lucky girls. That’s for sure.

    Thanks for sharing this. It made me all kinds of happy.

    • logyexpress
      Friday, February 17, 2012 at 12:32 am #

      I guess great guys fall for fabulous women, huh?

  9. Frelle
    Saturday, February 11, 2012 at 6:53 pm #

    so wonderful to read this story!!!

  10. Recovering Supermom
    Saturday, February 11, 2012 at 7:27 pm #

    What a lovely tribute to your husband. Sounds like you won the husband lottery, too! . And his actions show how much he loves you, too. Happy Valentine’s Day to you both. :)

    • logyexpress
      Friday, February 17, 2012 at 12:35 am #

      Thanks, I’m so very lucky. I did posts for his birthday and our anniversary in quick succession and it was getting a little schmaltzy up in this here blog for awhile!

  11. Annabelle
    Saturday, February 11, 2012 at 7:58 pm #

    He sounds like a great guy — and you sound like you appreciate how great he is. Thanks for sharing.

    • logyexpress
      Friday, February 17, 2012 at 12:36 am #

      Thanks Annabelle! He’s a keeper.

  12. Kristine Duffey
    Sunday, February 12, 2012 at 11:28 am #

    What a lovely grand gesture and a wonderful love story. I’m sure it was the best 40th birthday ever.

    • logyexpress
      Friday, February 17, 2012 at 12:37 am #

      I love how surprised he was. It was a fun project. He said I set the bar high…I turn 40 in a couple of years!

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